Anne looked at the six women sitting at her table, took a deep breath, and started to frame up her challenge: "I just had my review. My boss told me I'm abrasive." Before she could continue, the other women chimed in: "Been there, done that, got the T-shirt." "Ugh. Seriously?" "I wish that hadn't happened to you." Anne cracked a small smile and, seemingly buoyed by their support, continued: "Yeah, thanks. I really struggled to hear what he had to say and not get defensive after that. There's a guy on my team who practically leaves dead bodies in his path to get results, and I guarantee he didn't get this feedback. But it's out there, and if I don't manage this well it could derail my career. I'm looking for your advice on what to do next."